Funny little study.
Some researchers got a bunch of people who had recently began dating someone. Both males and females. They then asked the participants to do two things:
1. Rate the likelihood that you and your new partner will be together after 6 months
2. Regardless of when you breakup, for what reasons do you think you would breakup
So all fine and dandy. The researchers go back 6 months later for a little follow up.
And what do they find? Apparently people are terrible at predicting a relationship’s probability of lasting. What they are good at, however, is predicting why the relationship would fail.
Lessons? This goes back to a post I did earlier on a Cabbie’s Wisdom. There’s likely some merit to giving more weight to the reasons we don’t like someone and trying not to be as blind to those reasons or ignore them at the beginning of a relationship.